Do you believe in Santa, the Easter Bunny, Leprechauns or the Tooth Fairy?

My worst nightmare is when a child comes up to me and asks, “Is Santa (Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, Leprechauns) real”?

No matter how you answer, the next words out of their mouths are……” Tommy says Santa (Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, Leprechaun) isn’t real!”  It is a no win situation, no matter what I say.

I respect your right to tell your child what and what not to believe whether it is for religious reasons or you don’t want to lie to your child. But when it comes to school it is a difficult situation for the classroom teacher.

Last year I had a little girl that has always known the truth about Santa.  I wouldn’t have known if her mother hadn’t told me.  This year I have a boy that immediately, as soon as we started doing seasonal activities, announced on the playground to most of the first grade boys that Santa wasn’t real.  Many, many unhappy parents.

What is the difference?  Jane’s parents, in respect for the other parents, have always told her at each and every holiday to be sure not to tell the other children and she hasn’t.  Samuel, however, hasn’t been reminded. Even though both his mother and I talked to him at Christmas, he has already tried to inform a child that the Easter Bunny isn’t real either.  Luckily it was the first thing in the morning and he said it as the other child was walking away.  I don’t think they heard him but I did.  I was able to speak to him immediately to remind him not to talk about it.  Then I sent out an email to all of my parents to ask them to remind their non believers to not ruin it for the others.  I got several emails back reminding me that Samuel had told the children about Santa…..unhappy parents still not happy.

When its your own child you know when the time is right. I must have really done a great job keeping Santa, Leprechauns, the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy real for my children.  One day when my daughter was in 4th grade I picked her up from school.  Thankfully, her little brother was not with me because she immediately asked “Mom, is the Tooth Fairy real”?  Gulp!  I told her no, but not to spoil it for her brother.  She never asked about the others.  I’m sure she figured it out.  Her brother never asked either so I am sure at some point either she or a “Samuel” told him or he matured enough to figure it out on his own.   Or maybe, he was a mini me……….

I personally kept my parents believing that I believed in Santa for a couple of years after I found my Santa present hidden in their closet.  Until Christmas morning I thought it was just a present, but when it was under the tree from Santa, I knew.

Is believing in Santa and other seasonal characters bad? Recently, I  saw an article about believing in Santa and creativity. Believing in Santa is one of the earliest opportunities a child has to imagine.  You can’t believe in Santa and not try to imagine him coming down a chimney or the elves in his workshop.  Or what does the Tooth Fairy do with the tooth?  When you imagine you’re making movies in your head.  If you can make movies in your head, you can comprehend what you are reading.  If you can make movies in your head, you can write about what you are imagining.  Better readers and writers are better students.

So, what do I say when a student asks me if Santa, Leprechauns, the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy are real?  I tell them that some children believe and some don’t and if they have questions, they need to talk to their parents.  If they ask me if I believe, I tell them yes, I believe in what they represent and they have never questioned me further.

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Monkey See, Monkey Do

photo-1A few weeks ago I was sitting in the garden behind Notre-Dame in Paris waiting for my daughter to finish climbing to the top of the Cathedral towers.  All was peaceful until two boys decided they were bored and started running around several benches, including mine.  School was still in session in Paris so they must have been waiting for classmates to finish whatever they were doing.  Soon two boys turned into three, three into four and finally there were five of them chasing each other and generally disturbing the serenity of the Square de Jean XXIII.  At no time did the first two boys stop long enough to ask boys 3, 4, and 5 to join them.  They just did.

This happens a lot with young children.  You’d like to think that when they are choosing to follow the behavior of another child, they are being discriminate about what behavior to mimic.  Unfortunately, that is not the case.  They are young children and it is in their nature to be a part of the “monkey see, monkey do” syndrome.  As parents and caregivers, it is up to us to teach them which behaviors are acceptable and not acceptable for them.

Some “not acceptable for them situations” are stickier than others.  Your definition of acceptable behavior might be different than those around you including family, friends and strangers.

These are techniques I’ve used with my own children, with my class or have learned along the way.

The easiest situation is when you are in a public place and you and your child observe inappropriate behavior of another child or group of children from a distance.  If I had been sitting on the park bench with a young child I would have said something like, “I’m glad you are sitting on the bench with me.  I know the people around us appreciate it too. Do you think the boys should be running around?”.  Then you can quietly talk about why they shouldn’t be running around……’s noisey and people are trying to read….there’s a lot of people walking around and someone might get hurt…….the list could go on.

Of course the teacher in me was sitting there trying to control the urge to say ” Garçons, s’il vous plait arreter de courir, il vous est perturbateur”.  Yep, I had translator, but didn’t use it to say, “Boys, stop running, you’re being disruptive”……but I wanted to!

What if your child was part of the pack causing the disruptive behavior?  Easy.  You ask them to sit or stand with you.  You tell them why and that when the group has calmed down and changed back to acceptable behavior they can rejoin the activity.

Play dates unfortunately are a little more sensitive especially when it might affect your friendship with the parent.

Sticky Situations:

1. The host child begins to exhibit bad behavior, you watch your child beginning to follow, you hesitate, hoping the host parent will step in, they don’t and it’s time for you to take action!

Actually, before you arrived, you should have been proactive.  You’ve already taught your toddler that “no” means to stop what they are doing and if they don’t there will be consequences.  Why not teach them the equivalent for play dates by having a sign that only the two of you know?  Say their name so they are looking at you and tug on your ear (the comedian Carol Burnett used this after every show to tell her grandmother she loved her).  The key is if you used it, stick to the consequences for not changing behavior.  The play date might end early, but your child will know that you mean what you say and that will serve you well when they are teenagers!

It works in the classroom too.  Let me give you an example.  I have a necklace at school that I can easily take on and off.  If I have a child with difficulty controlling behavior I tell them I’m going to wear my necklace.  If I take it off that means their behavior is not appropriate for the classroom.  When they are back on track I put it back on.  That student and I only know the meaning of what I am doing.

2.  The play date is at your house………………… the guest child begins to exhibit bad behavior, you watch your child beginning to follow, you fear something will be broken, you hesitate, hoping the guest parent will step in and they don’t.  What do you do?

The experts would tell you to redirect their play.  If they are throwing blocks, then you pick up the blocks and direct them towards another activity.  That should work.

What if it doesn’t, it continues and the guest parent still ignores the situation?  First, make a note to yourself………..don’t invite them back.  Next, and this is entirely my personal opinion, it’s your house and if you have to step in, you should.  If a parent is watching their child be unkind, mean, reckless, poor table manners, etc and they do nothing to stop it, then, frankly, they have no respect for you, your family and your home.  If it was my house, I’d ask the offending child to stop and ask my own child to help me clean up, telling them that I am afraid something is going to be broken and they can play with it again after guest child leaves.  Look at the particular situation facing you.  Be creative in what you say to keep it general and not point fingers.  Take your child out of the situation first and then it seems less offensive when you take the guest child out of it.

Finally,  the most important thing to remember is that you want to stop the situation before your child becomes a follower.  When you acknowledge appropriate play your child then becomes the good host and guest.  As they get older they might take care of the problem before it becomes one………..  “We can’t throw blocks because if we do my mom will make us put them away”………..  Music to a parent’s ears!

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Valentine Bags

Love me some Pinterest!  The other day I was checking out some new pins and I saw some really cute valentine boxes for the classroom.  Being late to the party, or in other words, waiting until the last minute to think about valentine bags, I didn’t have time to collect boxes and cover them in red paper.  I had to improvise with what I had.

get-attachment.aspxValentine Bags 2014 version

This is what I did.  I used my iPad to take a picture of each child’s face from the shoulders up.  I printed them on card stock.  I cut each of them out.

Our school orders us white 6″x12″ bakery bags.  I folded down the top edge about an inch (it helps if you stretch the bag top out as you fold) and then folded it again.  This keeps the bag open and gives it some stability.

I stapled each head to the back of the bag.  Then I gave each child a set of  valentine arms to cut out.  I had a variety of ethnic tones available.  After the arms were cut out I stapled each one to the back of the bag facing forward.  I creased where the hand would come over to the front of the bag to keep them from pulling the arm too tight across the side of the bag.

Each child glued down a big heart on the front of the bag and then glued down the hands over the heart.

They turned out really cute and the heavier heads has helped them to stay upright instead of toppling over.

I’ve seen many valentine bags torn into like it was Christmas morning.  We make Valentine Memory Books for them to glue their valentines in.  It makes them actually look at who gave it to them.  The book has enough blank white pages in it for each valentine.  If they get a candy, then they just write about it.

IMG_4418 Valentine Memory Book

Valentine Memory Book

And that’s a pin!

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Potato Soup

I had a wonderful mother.  She was an excellent cook, especially when it came to comfort food.  One of my favorite things she made was potato soup.

The hardest part of making potato soup in my house is the challenge of keeping my husband from eating the raw potatoes.  Before you judge……we both grew up eating raw potatoes.  As disgusting as that is to some of you, including our children, it’s normal to us.  So, with a few unkind words spoken to him, the soup finally gets made.  It is a combination of my mother’s recipe and my own touches. It’s rich, thick and so delicious!

Potato Soup



1 small onion diced

1/2 cup chopped celery diced

2 tbsp butter

4 cups russet potatoes, pealed and diced into 1 inch pieces

8 cups chicken broth

1 tsp Nature’s seasoning

salt and pepper to taste

1/3 package of tri colored coleslaw mix

2 cups whole milk

1/4 c flour

1 cup heavy cream

Melt the butter in a heavy pot. Add the onion and celery  and cook until the onion is tender but not brown.  Add the potatoes, seasoning and chicken broth.  Cook until the potatoes are fork tender (don’t cook too long or they will get mushy).  With a potato masher break up the cooked potatoes so you still have big pieces and smaller pieces. Thicken the milk (make sure it is whole milk, the others just don’t have the same results in making it thick and rich) with the flour and add to the potato mixture.  Add the cream and coleslaw.  Cook for about 10 minutes over medium heat until soup thickens. I freeze the leftovers, if there are any ,to grab as I go out the door to work.  I let it sit out all morning to thaw and then microwave for about 4 minutes.  It makes a great lunch.

Serves 6

Enjoy. It’s the perfect dinner for a cold winter night!

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Snow Day, Part II

Winter weather hit the south with a vengeance this week.  Snow in the forecast along with low temperatures.  But, for once, the school districts didn’t announce school closures 2 days in advanced.  They actually waited to see what the weather was going to do and waited until the day before.  The problem was that they believed that the weather would follow the predicted path.  Ouch, it didn’t. Unfortunately, it showed up with its ugly brothers, sleet and ice.

Just like all of the children in my class I was wishing for snow.  I love watching it fall.  I love walking in it.  I love how pretty everything is.  But if I can help it, I don’t like making up snow days.  Our head of school doesn’t either so we took advantage of the weather arriving around noon and came to school with an early dismissal.

My coworkers were busy hitting Pinterest to find snow related ideas to make our short day educational but fun.  It was a busy enrichment day for my class so we only concentrated on one theme.

Snowmen: Two activities, one sheet of paper.

The first activity was to label a snowman.  Perfect!  We started off with me giving verbal “how to draw your snowman” directions.  It turned out to be a great listening activity.  Then I gave them the labels which they used their independent reading skills to correctly place them.  They really had a lot of fun doing it because they had an investment in the snowman they were labeling.


After they finished labeling their snowmen I had them turn their papers to the other side and they made a snow picture with a snowman worksheet.  The purpose of this wasn’t the cut and paste snowman but using a horizon in the picture.  We have been talking about drawing pictures with a horizon to give the picture some depth and to correspond with their lesson with the art teacher and vanishing points.


Before we knew it, the weather had change and freezing rain had arrived.  Early dismissal was moved up an hour and we all got home safe and sound before it got really bad.

Then we all waited……..for the snow to come and this is what we got.

IMG_4378It was just enough to make it pretty, test my dogs that aren’t used to it and along with the icy roads, enough to keep us home for two more snow days.

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Calling All Turkeys

I’m pretty sure most of the parents hate me on the day we get out for Thanksgiving vacation.  The children love me though, for on that day we finish up our Thanksgiving activities and we make …………………Turkey Callers!


Imagine a rafter of turkeys, both hens and toms, in an uproar all at once, and you have a room full of children with turkey callers.

I honestly can’t remember where I got the idea from but it’s been a staple from the first time I saw it.  Luckily I had a Kindergarten aide that created the pattern for me.

Turkey Caller Pattern

To make one you will need a large plastic cup, a sponge, waxed dental floss and a blunt needle.


Drill two holes in the bottom of the cup.


Cut the sponge into 4 pieces.  They should be approximately 1″x 2″.


This is the tedious part and I always do it ahead of time.  Cut a piece of dental floss that is about 1 1/2′  to 2′ long.  Thread it down through one hole and back up through the other hole.


Tie the floss off onto what is now the top so there is a short end and a long end.  Then take the long end back down into the cup.


Next tie the piece of sponge at the end of the long piece of floss.  To get it tight it helps to have the sponge slightly damp.


Now you are ready to add the turkey features.  I always have the children cut the pieces out and I staple them to the cup.  I fan the feathers out like the NBC Peacock and staple to the back and the body and legs to the front.


To make the turkey talk, slightly wet the sponge and wrap it around the top of the floss.


Pull the sponge in short, jerky movements down the floss and let the noise begin!


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The Interesting World of Potty Training

The first time one of my students came up to me and told me he needed to “go sink the boat” I had no idea of what he was talking about. It took a few seconds but I finally figured out from the jumping up and down while holding his pants and body parts in a death grip that he needed to go to the boy’s bathroom. Yep, when he was being potty trained they put little plastic boats in the toilet and, well, I am sure you get the picture.  They used this approach with sons #1, 2 and 3 and it wasn’t until son #3 that I was an insider on their potty training method.  It obviously worked for them.

Before we go any farther, let me just say…I am not an expert in potty training!  Nope, not going to quote any scientific studies.  But I am going to share with you my own experiences potty training my son and daughter and I am sure they will appreciate that I don’t use their names.

My daughter, the first born, the one where  Infants and Mothers by T. Berry Brazzleton was our guide.  I am sure 31 years later much of the information in the book is out of date (i.e. babies should sleep on their stomachs) but much of what he said was common sense and understandable.  He’s written several newer books on early childhood and parenting that have receive good reviews.

Either from his book or somewhere else, I had in my mind that age 2 was the magical age to start potty training my daughter.  I actually think it had a lot to do with being sick and tired of dealing with and buying diapers but for whatever reason around age 2 we started the journey.

We bought the big girl panties together but still wore a diaper at night.  We sat countless times in the bathroom with her on the little toilet and me on the edge of the bathtub waiting for something to happen. Sometimes there would be a trickle, sometimes there wouldn’t.  We’d leave the bathroom.  She’d have an accident.  I’d do the laundry.  I spent so much time trying to anticipate when she might need to go to the bathroom.  It took the fun out of anything we were doing.

Then, while my husband was still in Korea, we took a trip to Boston to visit my cousin.  We rode the swan boats, saw the ducks, enjoyed the city and wore her out!  The next morning when I was chaining her diaper I knew she needed to go to the bathroom.  So instead of putting her in her cute, little panties, I put her on the toilet.  I was the coach making all of the grunting noises and she was making them with me.  Plop!  Success!  “Yeah, you just went potty!”  Click!  She made the connection!  Did she ever have an accident again?  Of course she did but very few.  From then on when I asked her if she had to go potty, she knew what I was talking about.  It was just like when she was sitting with her little brother “reading” him a book in the window sill.  She sounded out the word hot and came running to me to ask me if it was the word hot. I told her yes and that was the moment when reading clicked for her.  We were  both thrilled!

On to child two.  My son, the 2nd born, still had the wisdom of Dr. Brazzleton, but not all of my time.  So when it came time to think about potty training I didn’t think about it too long.  I think I had flashbacks doing it 4 years earlier and I wasn’t looking forward to that.  Lucky, for me I had read an article about not starting potty training too early, so I didn’t.  This article also said the child would just naturally potty train on their own but that isn’t practical if you want to send your child to a daycare that requires them to be potty trained.  I didn’t wait for him to potty train himself but I did wait until he was closer to age 3.  He didn’t have “aha moment” on the toilet, but I do remember he was fully potty trained in a week once we started.  Although, if I would have thought of the boat idea, I probably would have introduced it but it would have been boats cut out of toilet or tissue paper.  Seriously, is there a little boy that wouldn’t like to sink the boat?

So, what do I think about potty training?

1. Children need to be physically ready…..the muscles they will use have to be fully developed.

2.  They need to be developmentally ready.  Just like so many tasks they learn in their early years they need to have the mental readiness to understand it.

3.  They need to somehow make the the connection between the word potty and what their body is doing.  How many times do you see a toddler standing, making faces and doing the duty in their diaper?  That would be the opportune time to say to them,  “Yeah, you’re going potty in your diaper”.  Cues like that will help them make the connection later.

4.  Don’t rush it.  If you start the process and it just isn’t clicking, stop.  Wait a few weeks and try again.

5.  Don’t forget to let them flush the toilet.  Those who follow them in the bathroom will appreciate it.

6. Whatever words you chose to call using the bathroom will surface out in public.  It might be cute at 2 but could be the subject of laughs by peers at age 5.

Son #3 of the above mentioned family told me he needed “to make a frog”.  Luckily I was the only one that heard it. I wasn’t caught off guard this time and didn’t need to ask any questions!

These are my thoughts.  What are yours?

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The Crying Room

I will admit it…..there are days when I don’t like some of my students.  It’s the days when they are whiney and fussy and can’t really tell me why.  By the end of the day they have worn me out!   Luckily, I get to send them home.

I remember those days with my own children……praying they would take a nap and wake up a happy child again.  Some days, that just didn’t happen.

On those days I wish I would have thought of this idea!  My daughter has a friend with a two year old that my daughter adores.  A few weeks ago she was telling me the story of the “Crying Room” and I thought it was quite ingenious and wanted to share it.  As the story goes, it was one of those days when the little girl was whiney, fussy and crying.  Mom had tried everything to get her to be her happy, little girl and it wasn’t working.  Finally, mom told her that she would have to go to the crying room (I believe it was the guest room). It worked so well that the next time she had a fussy day she told her mom she thought she needed to go to the the crying room.  I hope I have told the story correctly.  However it is told, the concept is the same and a good one.  It worked for her.

What I like most about this idea as opposed to going to their room, sitting in the corner or on the time out chair/rug is that mom was out of sight.  The audience was gone.  Toys were gone.  Nothing to play with, just a quiet place.  The child could make calming down her own decision.  Mom had a chance to separate herself from the commotion but still be close enough to keep an eye on the situation.

I wish I would have stumbled across this idea about 29 years ago.  I picture my sparse living room as the crying room.  I wonder how it would have worked?

Discipline…… you can hit one out of the ball park and other times you can miss it by a mile.  It happens in teaching.  It happens in parenting.  It’s the misses that make us want to keep trying new approaches to solve problems.  It is the hope that what we try is the answer and when it isn’t we go back to square one and try again.

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Please, Please Flush the Toilet!

There are skills that just need to be taught at home before a child enters kindergarten! These are the be “nice to others skills” that are just common sense lessons in life.

My top 5 skills a child needs to know before going to school………

#5  Respect for your belongings and those of others and the school.

When I see children writing on their desk  I ask them if I can come to their house and do that on their table.  I am told, “no, my parents wouldn’t let you”.  Change what you say to “don’t write on the kitchen table” to “don’t write on any tables or desks”.  When you teach your child a life lesson such as “look both ways before crossing the street”, make it “look both ways before crossing any street”.  It is a choice of words that makes the lesson carry from your home to the outside world.

#4  Saying please and thank you!

I don’t care if your son or daughter says “yes or no ma’am”……I have seen that used to the excess that it is robotic and not used on the part of the child as a sign of respect.  But I do care that if someone gives your child something or does a kind deed for them that they do say “thank you”.  I do expect them to say please when asking someone to do something for them.  Out of a classroom of 20, I have 3 that say please and thank you.  Of those 3, two are English as a second language students……….. Is politeness getting lost in our culture?

#3 Clean up after yourself.

First of all, there isn’t a maid in the classroom.  Teaching your child to get out one activity at a time and putting it away when finished really helps out everyone!  It makes your child a better friend.  Who wants to play with the child who always leaves the play area at clean up time and lets others do the job for them….yes, that will be your child if you let them play and you are the one to clean up after them.

#2  If you spill something don’t just stand there and call my name, go get a paper towel and start cleaning before it ruins your work, your classmate’s work or something else.

I have some Mother Hens and Father Roosters in my classroom.  Whenever there is a spill or someone needs help, they are right there!  They are also the first ones on the job with a paper towel.  I have decide this is their nature because they have been taught at home to clean up spills and to help others.

#1  Flush the toilet!

No one likes to walk in to a bathroom where they have to flush the toilet before they can use the toilet.  Can you imagine what a school toilet looks like after 2 or 3 non-flushers? When you are toilet training your child, after they hop off the seat have them flush the toilet (and put the seat down, boys).  By the time they get to school they are pros and won’t even think about it.  That will make everyone from other children to the clean up crew happy.

Just remember it is easier for you to teach a habit at an early age than for the classroom teacher to change a habit at age 5 or 6.

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A Guide For A Kindergarten Parent’s First Day of School

Your child’s first day of kindergarten is bitter sweet. Happiness with some sadness sprinkled in. It’s a milestone, not just for your child but for you too.  The first day can be stressful for you, your child and also your child’s teacher.

I have a few suggestions to help eliminate some of the stress for everyone……………

Before school starts:

1.  When your child is young, make sure they have a variety of situations where they are not with you, so they learn that you come back.  When they go through that stage at around 9 months where they only want mommy they need to spend time with others caregivers.  It is a stage they all go through but eventually grow out of because they learn you come back.  Four or five years later you leaving them and coming back is a routine that will make that first day of school easier for both of you.

2. Get the supply list and go shopping with your child.  When you buy them, the supplies become just something that you brought home.  When your child goes with you and takes the box of crayons off the shelf, they have an investment in it. If they can hand the cashier the money to pay for it, then they learn it would take more money to replace it.  Then, if the teacher sends you a note in October that your child needs new crayons because they broke all of them, you will be able to tell your child that they will need to replace the crayons with their piggy bank money.  It’s the Love and Logic way of natural consequences.

3. If your school does not have a meet and greet day before school starts, make arrangements to visit the teacher and the classroom.  The unknown is always a bit scary.

4.  Children can be apprehensive about going to school without telling you.  The Kissing Hand  by Audrey Penn is an excellent book to help reassure children about school.

The Night Before School:

1.  This one is easy….  pack the backpack and lunch, pick out clothes,  early bath, read The Kissing Hand one more time, talk about the schedule for tomorrow (who will take to school, who will pick up and at what time, etc) and then to bed on time.

First Day of School:

Please remember, this is probably the most hectic day of school for the teacher.  The teacher has already spent long hours in the classroom for at least a week getting ready for your child.  They probably got to school early to finish up so they will be able to greet each child as they come through the classroom door.  They would like to visit with you, but with (in my case) 19 other families also needing attention, they can’t that very first morning.  If your child has medical issues they need to know about, then make an appointment to see the teacher before the first day.  If you think they need to know that your child doesn’t get along with another child, it can wait…..if they can’t get along, the teacher will probably figure that out very quickly.

1.  Before you leave home tell your child if they have a lunch or ordered a lunch.  Show them where their snack is and have them make one last bathroom stop.  Make sure they eat a good breakfast.  Ask them if they want a Kissing Hand.

2.  When you arrive at school walk your child to their new classroom (be prepared….at some point in their school career they will tell you they don’t need you to walk them in). Ask the teacher if it is OK for you to come into the room.

3.  Ask where supplies and backpacks should go.  Don’t just leave them by the child’s desk.

4.  Take pictures if you desire.

5.  Unless the teacher tells you differently, don’t stay more than 5 minutes.  This is especially important if your child is crying.  The longer you stay, the harder it is for them to separate.  Most of the time, for about 90% of the criers, shortly after mom and dad have left, the crying stops…….yep, a guilt trip just for their parents.  For the other 10% it usually doesn’t last more than a couple of days…..maybe two weeks but not all day and we have never had one go all year!  This is one of the reasons it is important to meet the teacher before the first day. It makes it easier for the teacher to comfort the child and for the child to accept it.  Those that can’t separate are usually the children without prior experience of different caregivers.

6.  Be on time to pick your child up!  If your child was worried that you wouldn’t be back to pick them up, then you have to be on time.  Tell your child ahead of time if you will be at the door to pick them up or if you will go through carpool if that’s an option.  If you have a bus rider, tell them you will meet the bus.

7.  Ask your child about their first day.  They probably won’t tell you unless you ask specific questions.  It was a busy day and they learned a lot of information about class routines and rules.  If your child was unhappy about staying at school, make your day sound really boring.  They probably had a lot more fun than you did and will think it might not be so bad after all.

Day Two:

1.  If your child cried on the first day, don’t walk them into the room (I actually don’t allow any parents in my classroom the 2nd day as we need to establish our morning routine and it is harder to do with parents talking and moving about).  Skip carpool drop off.  Say your goodbyes at home and let someone else take them to school but remind them who will pick them up.  You could also say your goodbye at the classroom door or at the bus stop.

Remember a successful first day of school happens when your child knows that you love them, that you will always be there for them but there are times when you will need to be apart.  If they have had prior experience with separation from you, then the first day of kindergarten ( mother’s morning out, preschool, or day care) will be a breeze for you and your child.

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